Sex and Dating

I love the story of Jesus and the Woman caught in sexual sin as described in John 8:1-11.  I believe that it gives us a great model of how we ought to respond to any sexual sin; homosexual or heterosexual.  It is a response from Jesus that is a perfect mixture of grace and truth.  “Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.”  No condemnation (grace) but an encouragement to leave her life of sin (truth).  What comes through so clearly here is Jesus’ unconditional love for this woman.  Perfect love and a Christ-like response involves both grace and truth.

I ran across a blog post this morning on this subject and thought you might enjoy reading it:

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The hyper-sexualized culture that our kids are growing up in is teaching and training our kids to be, think and act sexually at an earlier and earlier age.  In fact, there is a new marketing concept called KAGOY (Kids are getting older younger).  The impact that this is having on young boys and girls is a growing concern.  As parents, we need to engage with our kids in conversations that will help keep this in check and also will give them a healthier and more godly approach to their sexuality.  God is the author and creator of sex and of their individual sexuality.  He has given us clear guidelines about stewarding this incredible gift and we need to be delivering His message and His design of sex to our children.  If we don’t, the messages, the images and the expectations of our culture will lead our kids to believe that what they see and hear from the world is what is expected from them.

Read this article that was posted today with more on the fallout from the lies our kids are being told.

The powder keg of a porn culture.

1 Thessalonians 4:1-8 (NASB)

1 Finally then, brethren, we request and exhort you in the Lord Jesus, that as you received from us instruction as to how you ought to walk and please God (just as you actually do walk), that you excel still more. 2 For you know what commandments we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus. 3 For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality; 4 that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, 5 not in lustful passion, like the Gentiles who do not know God; 6and that no man transgress and defraud his brother in the matter because the Lord is the avenger in all these things, just as we also told you before and solemnly warned you7 For God has not called us for the purpose of impurity, but in sanctification. 8 So, he who rejects this is not rejecting man but the God who gives His Holy Spirit to you.


I get asked by parents all the time, “when should I start talking to my kids about sex?”  My answer is always, “right now.”  As much as I would love to say wait until they are 12 or 13, that is just way too late.  Our kids are growing up in an environment and culture that is constantly “talking” to them about sex.  If we aren’t talking about it too then our kids will assume that the messages they are getting from the world are truth.  We must be louder than those messages and pointing them to the Truth about sex; God’s purposes and God’s design.

Here is a link to a post that we (pureHOPE) did on Age Appropriate Talking Points.

Mark Driscoll blogs on this important discussion.

How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex.

Last week I had the privilege of meeting Jonathan Daugherty, Director of Be Broken Ministries.  There are some additional resources available on this website for you as a parent and I wanted to make you aware of them.  You can access these resources by clicking here.


I mentioned this book on Sunday night at our Parenting seminar and have been asked to post a link to it on our blog.

In this book Dr. Laaser speaks to parents about how to talk with their children about sexuality. It contains his model of healthy sexuality and explains at various age levels what lessons and messages kids need to be taught.

Borrowing from concepts of how children develop emotionally, physically, and spiritually he uses sample conversations to teach how to model and teach healthy sexuality. This book also contains a chapter about how to talk to each other as husband and wife about sexuality and a chapter on how to have safe conversations. One of the basic themes of this book is that the greatest enemy of sexual health is silence and that if parents don’t talk to their kids about basic biblical and moral values, the world will teach them incorrect messages.

Talking to Your Kids About Sex

In this book Dr. Laaser speaks to parents about how to talk with their children about sexuality. It contains his model of healthy sexuality and explains at various age levels what lessons and messages kids need to be taught.